Social Distancing Day 34

Apologies, it’s been almost two weeks since the last post. To be honest, we have gotten to the “every day is the same” stage of the pandemic. In many ways, the ones for whom that is true are the lucky ones. We have stable income (so far), do not have immediate contacts who are getting sick, or hospitalized, and we haven’t had trouble getting supplies.

I’m doing a fair number of video calls per week, both for work and socialization. I’ve also been trying to focus on work, and developing a routine that leaves time to relax, check in with people and get lots of sleep. My roommates have been cooking up a storm, and I’ve been enjoying the benefits. I don’t personally find cooking or baking a relaxing or de-stressing, so I’m not particularly motivated to do more of it in the middle of a pandemic.

The weather has been starting to get better here in Massachusetts. I’ve been managing to spend a couple afternoons on the balcony, enjoying the sun and warmth. On the other hand, today has been very rainy and windy, and most days have been quite cloudy. I suppose Spring in is the air, but most days I am perfectly happy to be at home. I assume that will change over the next few weeks, so we’ll see how I feel about being cooped up at home then.

I started playing video games again, for the first time in about a decade. I’ve been playing Age of Empires 2, both single player and multiplayer, and I’ve been working my way through Doom 2016. It’s a good way to disconnect and escape at the end of the day, but I have to be careful to not overdo it.

I hope you all have been staying safe, staying sane, and taking care of each other. More tomorrow, and let me know if there’s anything you’d like me to write about.

Social Distancing Day 22

It’s been about three weeks since the last time I went in to the office. Since then I think I’ve left the apartment a grand total of three times. Honestly, not being able to leave the house hasn’t been too bad for me. I’m luckily to have a balcony that gets a lot of afternoon sun, and the weather has been getting better. I’ve spent a couple afternoons now reading out on the balcony and getting my vitamin D levels up.

On the negative side, a few weeks of pretty much no physical activity was starting to take its toll on my body. I’ve started doing some bodyweight exercises: squats, push-ups, planks, some physical therapy exercises for my shoulders, a bunch of stretches. A couple days of that, as well as being more careful about my sitting posture, has definitely been helping. I’ve also been consciously trying to move my wake up time earlier. The days are better when I can get up at a normal-ish time and get in a workout and a meditation session before I start tackling the tasks of the day. This is true in normal times, and is also true now, even though the definition of “tasks of the day” is “Zoom calls”.

Aside: My roommate told me they found waking up and answering emails in bed to be relaxing, and I cringed hard. Personally, I don’t like working from bed, and I don’t like doing work things, even answering emails, until I’ve had a chance to at least have some coffee and get my head in order.

I’m finally getting to a routine that I feel comfortable with, and that seems sustainable over the long run. The state of Viriginia at least seems to think that this situation will last till the beginning which may actually end up being on the early side. I’m hoping that the routines and habits I’m putting in place now will last me for the next few months.

Today’s the first of April. As a culture we seem to have decided that April’s Fool day jokes would be ill-advised right now, and I’m just fine with that. I decided to go through the ritual of reviewing the previous month, and making plans for the month ahead, even though the only things that went into my planner were Zoom calls. Personally, I find it important to maintain as much normalcy as possible. In particular, I want to keep marking the passage of time, and making progress with my life in as many ways as I can. I’ve been building up the mental capacity to focus on work again, and it honestly feels good to focus on something that isn’t doom and gloom. There has already been a lot said about self-care (and I’m sure there will be a lot more). For me, an integral part of self-care is feeling like I am honoring my skills and abilities, and doing the best I can. There isn’t really anything I can do to help with this crisis (apart from supporting small businesses in ways I can, and hoping these posts help people), but I can make the most of this time. No point in wasting a good crisis, is there now?

Till tomorrow, stay safe, stay sane, and take care of each other.

Social Distancing Day 20

Today has actually been a pretty good day. I managed to get out of bed not too late, take some time to ramp up and then spend most of the day working, until dinner time. It’s still dreary and grey here, with intermittent spells of rain, but I got enough sun on Friday that it’s not dragging me down quite yet. But I’m hoping the weather improves soon.

I’ve been spending as little time as I can listening to the news and thinking about Coronavirus happenings. I heard that Virginia just announced a 70-day lockdown. It now seems likely that this will stretch into the summer. My birthday is in the middle of July, I wonder the situation will be then. One of my friends pushed back their wedding from May to August, and another may have to do the same for their summer wedding.

After about three weeks of social distancing, I think I’ve managed some amount of acceptance and routines. The days are more or less the same, a little boring, but not hard. Over the last week I’ve managed to develop habits and routines which help me beat the urge to stagnate and do absolutely nothing. My stress response is unfortunately to shut down and just hope that the stressors go away, which is not a very healthy strategy. I’ve been working on improving that over the last year, but this crisis has been something of a boot camp to make that happen faster. It’s been uncomfortable, but I feel like I’ve come out of it stronger and more stable.

For the rest of this week I’m hoping to keep up the routines and practices that have been working, and try to be more productive. As I’ve noted before, I’m in the group that is lucky enough to still be employed and paid, not have to leave the apartment to do it, and also have no caregiving duties. For me, being productive is a way of maintaining sanity, and, to paraphrase Gandalf, to do what I can with the time I have. Keeping busy helps me stay sane, which in turn helps to stay safe and take care of people around me. I hope you all find your ways to do the same.

Social Distancing Day 18

Hello dear readers, apologies for the break in posts. The last few days have featured some ups and downs. After two weeks of social distancing, I am at once both settled into a sort of routine, and also chafing against the restrictions. I’ve gotten used to staying and working from home, more or less. I don’t really seem to mind not being able to leave the apartment, but I do miss having things to do. In particular, though I’ve been pretty well fed at home, I am really starting to miss going out for meals, and having them with different groups of people.

It’s been very important to keep myself occupied. It’s too easy for me to be constantly worried, or always refreshing news or Twitter, none of which actually helps the current situation. I’ve been doing that through a combination of work and play. My mornings have usually been filled with getting a slow start, some meeting, and catching up with news and email. The afternoons are when I’ve been doing the bulk of my work: reading, programming, writing reviews, etc. The evenings have been mostly social time, either with the roommates in person, or remotely with friends over some kind of video conferencing. My life is generally better when there is some sort of routines, and I’m glad to be settling into one.

The last few days have been sunny and enjoyably warm here. I’ve been making use of our balcony, which faces south and gets lots of sun in the afternoon. I spent most of yesterday afternoon on the balcony reading. I started reading a book called This Life by Martin Hägglund. It’s a combination of philosophy, politics and governance devoted towards living a satisfying, meaningful and finite life (hence the title). It’s both aligned with my interests, and also seems relevant to the current times.

I’ve been thinking about how time is going to a time of change for many, maybe all of us. For me, my emotions have been very intense, and all over the place. I also don’t have many of my usual coping mechanisms, like going out for a good meal, or spending some time in a bookshop or museum. So I have to actually sit with and make peace with feelings when they come up. It’s been difficult, especially the last few days, but it’s also been a learning experience. I’m getting better at seeing my emotions come and go. I’m getting better at realizing that no matter how I feel, I will feel differently soon, and don’t need to get carried away. I’m also (re-)learning that physical details, like how much and when I’ve eaten, or exercised, have a big mental effect. Much of this is stuff I’ve been thinking about and working with over the last year, but this time has reinforced and accelerated that development.

I took today to be a proper day off. Played a lot of Age of Empires, did some laundry, had some good meals. Tomorrow I’ll be preparing for the week ahead. My weekdays are actually still pretty full: almost all my meetings have gone online, so I need to plan ahead and manage my time and energy like I would for any other week. My Zen group usually meets on Sunday afternoons, and we’ve been doing that online too. Hope you all are having a good weekend in whatever way you can, and I hope you’re all staying safe, staying sane, and taking care of each other.

Social Distancing Day 13

Today has been the first really productive day I’ve had since all this started. I finished up my reviews for PLDI, read a couple of papers, and actually sat down to meditate. It’s really inconvenient that the same things that meditation helps with make it difficult to sit down to meditate in the first place. I think that’s true for in general for things that improve mental health. I managed to stay off Twitter for most of the day, following my own advice to accept that I can’t really change anything in this situation. Instead, I helped where I could: I organized my research group’s meetings (and related Zoom links) into a single document that we can refer to.

Yesterday we walked to The Scoop and Scootery, a local ice cream shop, where the portion sizes are massive, in true American fashion. I ate a third of my sundae yesterday, and a third as an afternoon treat today and still have a decent amount left for tomorrow. It’s important to appreciate the good things in trying times.

Talking of trying times, it snowed here today. Not too much, but enough to cover everything in a layer of white for a couple hours. If it weren’t for yesterday being bright and sunny, I would probably have found today depressing. I don’t think I appreciated the beauty of a snowy day, but I did manage to roll with it.

I think there’s going to be a lot of rolling with things in the next few weeks. Massachusetts in now enacting “shelter at home” restrictions like many other states, for the next two weeks. It’s more than likely that it will be extended for longer. The number of cases in the state are spiking, but that’s likely to due to more testing, which is a good thing. It’s worth remembering that with the 5-14 day incubation period for the virus, we will see steady increases in cases for a while to come.

So for the foreseeable future there’s nothing to do but stay safe, stay sane, and take care of each other.